Understanding Unconventional Domestic Violence in California
The term “domestic violence” can bring a specific, and all too common, scenario to mind. There are countless news reports and every-day stories of men assaulting women, such as a man assaulting his wife. This does happen. It is far too common and it is never acceptable. Another side to the tragedy surrounding domestic violence is that it is not limited to the “typical” type of violence that may come to mind when you hear the term.
Domestic violence does not only refer to violence by a husband toward his wife. It does not only refer to violence between married couples, nor does it strictly apply to physically violent encounters. Violence and other forms of abuse can and do happen in domestic relationships – not just physical abuse, and not just between married partners. This “unconventional” abuse may not be the first thing that comes to mind when we think of domestic abuse. But it is vitally important to understand that “unconventional” domestic violence exists. Untold numbers of individuals are suffering from such abuse and violence every day. The lack of awareness can result in people staying in abusive relationships for far too long.
Protections exist to help people suffering from domestic abuse and domestic violence in California. Raising awareness of these tools and of unconventional domestic violence and abuse in California can help us recognize when steps need to be taken to protect ourselves or someone that we care about. This article aims to raise awareness of California’s definition of domestic violence, how to identify unconventional abuse, and avenues you can reach out to for help if you suspect abuse.
Domestic Violence
California defines domestic violence as abuse between:
- Married spouses and/or ex-spouses;
- Domestic partners and/or ex-domestic partners;
- Current or former co-habitants (like roommates);
- Dating couples (current or former); and
- Close relatives
- The term “abuse” is more than a physical attack. It also encapsulates instances of:
- Sexual assault
- Assault
- Harassment, threats, stalking
- Coercive control
Unconventional Abuse
It would be impossible to list out every single way that a person could suffer from unconventional abuse, or be unconventionally abusive. A couple of common items include a romantic partner reading your texts, and trying to guilt you for speaking to people they do not want you to talk to – this may be coercive control.
Another unconventional abuse tactic is financial abuse – is a husband cutting his wife off from her access to money? Strictly monitoring what they spend, guilting her for making small purchases? Not allowing her access to financial documents, such as tax information or passwords to bank accounts?
Get Help for Domestic Violence in California
If you are concerned, or your family is concerned, that you or someone you love may be experiencing domestic violence or abuse, it is worth considering the possibility. It is worth looking into the many tools available to help affected individuals.
Contact Cardwell, Steigerwald Young
If you have experienced domestic violence, if you are in fear for you or your children’s safety, or if you have been wrongly accused and blamed for domestic violence that you did not commit, the experienced domestic violence and family law attorneys at Cardwell, Steigerwald Young can help. Our family law attorneys provide expert advice and zealous advocacy on your behalf. For immediate assistance, call our San Francisco office today.
Sources:
cpedv.org/domestic-violence-organizations-california
blueshieldcafoundation.org/resources/collections/domestic-violence-california-resources-for-survivors-advocates-and-allies
